How To Help Your Parents Retire And Save For Your Own Future

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If your parents are nearing retirement, you might find yourself beginning to wonder what their plan is for living off of their savings — or if they even have any savings to live off of.

According to a 2020 AARP report, almost one-third of adults with at least one living parent are providing financial support to them. What’s more is that over 40% of respondents expect to provide support to their parents in the future. And for many adult children from immigrant families, it’s extremely common for them to financially support their parents in retirement.

Saving and investing for your own future is hard enough, especially thanks to the rising cost of living, student loan debt and the cost of raising a family. And when it comes to doing all of that on top of helping your parents retire, it can feel like you’re in between a rock and a hard place.

So Select spoke to Delyanne Barros, the Founder of Delyanne The Money Coach, for tips on how to strike a balance between the two. Barros grew her own net worth to $1.05 million, at the time of writing this article, and is taking steps to retire early and retire her mother.

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Talk to your parents about the state of their finances

Discuss options for supplemental income for your parents

Make sure you’re comfortable with your own budget

Keep contributing to your own 401(k) account

Your employer sponsored 401(k) account is one of the simplest ways to start saving for your own future. With a 401(k), a portion of every paycheck is automatically deducted and invested into your account (some employers even match your contributions so your balance grows even faster).

The money you contribute is pre-tax, which means it’s already invested before your paycheck hits your bank account so you don’t even miss it. If you’re having a hard time splitting your paycheck between purchases and savings, your 401(k) account can take away the hassle. So even if, after taking care of all your expenses, you can’t afford to help your parents save for retirement and save for your own future, at least you’ve already been contributing to your 401(k) account.

Barros credits her 401(k) account as one really important way she was able to become a millionaire before age 40.

“I started investing in 2011 when I was 28 through my 401(k), so i started early and although I wasn’t putting in much, I was still investing consistently,” she explains. “I would increase my contribution rate every single year as my salary increased.”

Additionally, on top of your 401(k) you could contribute an additional $6,000 a year by opening up a traditional IRA or Roth IRA. A Roth IRA is a great tool when it comes to saving for retirement since you can contribute after-tax money that gets invested, grows tax-free over time and can be withdrawn without paying taxes.

There are lots of Roth IRA providers out there, like Vanguard and Ally Invest.


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Talk to your siblings about pooling together your resources

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