Members of a popular internet forum were quick to call out one woman who repeatedly hinted her roommate was poor but changed her tune when she learned the opposite.
In a viral Reddit post published on r/AmITheA**hole, original poster (or OP) u/Flaky_Mortgage_6104 said his longtime roommate recently asked if a third tenant could move into their apartment and detailed how the arrangement soured after just a few weeks.
titled, “[Am I the a**hole] for revealing my salary and refusing to pay more for rent?” the post has received more than 5,500 votes in the last day.
Writing that he plans to make a down payment on a house within the next two years, OP said he agreed to a third tenant to ensure his roommate would not incur increasing expenses when he eventually moves out.
However, after the third tenant, Sophie, moved in, the original poster said it didn’t take long for the situation to become hostile.
“When Sophie moved in things were good for two weeks until I had to leave for work,” OP wrote. “This was when she learned that I was a miner and leave for two weeks at a time.”
“She would constantly talk about climate change [and] she would constantly try to ‘educate’ us on how and why we should change our habits,” OP continued. “The real frustration was when she started going after me and my job… This was accompanied by having this ridiculous and false notion that I am poor and work for minimum wage.”
Explaining that Sophie had gone so far as to have her parents call him to discuss “financial assistance,” OP said he couldn’t take it anymore and laid out his earnings—much to her dismay.
“She said that she is just trying to help someone ‘worse off’ [and] this is when I snapped at her and not only told her my salary but [gave] proof I make 100K per year,” OP wrote. “After our argument, we didn’t really speak with each other until after I returned from my next work period.”
“Upon returning…she started demanding I pay more for rent as I make more and that I should apologize for what I said to her,” OP continued. “I refused and said that [if] she doesn’t like me or the arrangements she is free to leave any time.”
In 2018, data collected by the Pew Research Center revealed that roughly 79 million adults, 31.9 percent of the adult population, in the US lived with at least one roommate, not counting parents or students between the ages of 18 and 24.
Four years later, that figure has increased, due in large part to skyrocketing inflation rates and a lack of affordable and reliable housing across the country.
While living with roommates provides everyday challenges, like managing schedules and sometimes sharing space with complete strangers, paying rent also poses major challenges for more than one reason.
Coming up with enough money to cover monthly rent can often be difficult for everyone, regardless of their living situation, but splitting that monthly cost between an increasing number of adults can be stressful and a point of contention for everyone involved.
Although many households elect to split rent and utilities evenly, some pods of people choose to split based on other factors, such as bedroom size and personal income.
But according to real estate website Avail, dividing rent based on tenants’ respective incomes can be a sensitive topic to broach and as a result, is less common and suited best for couples who already share expenses.
Throughout the comment section of the viral post, Redditors responding were stunned that Sophie demanded OP pay more rent, especially after her many weeks of money-related slights.
“Ask her why she never offered to pay more rent than you do when she assumed you were basically destitute,” Redditor u/SweetPotatoFamished wrote in the post’s top comment, which has received more than 11,000 votes. “Is it only okay to divide rent up based on income when it means other people would pay more than she does?”
†[Not the a**hole] at all,” they added.
Redditor u/Kokbiel, whose comment has received more than 2,000 votes, offered a similar response.
“More money doesn’t mean you cover more bills for people who are housemates,” they wrote. “I’d suggest to her she find a better job, and say you’re just trying to help someone ‘worse off.'”
“She’s not your dependent and neither is the other roommate,” Redditor u/Ok-Manufacturer-5746 added. “You should make it clear to her that that is the point of roommates. Equal share of living expenses.”
news week reached out to u/Flaky_Mortgage_6104 for comment.